Most of you know about Cheyanne, our pom pup. Well we have had her for quite a while now and although everyone loves her...(who doesn't love a puppy?) We have been having some issues, for some reason Cheyanne doesn't seem to be bonding with anyone in the family. With Kenai, I fell in love instantly and he has bonded very well and there was just a connection there. There doesn't seem to be that connection with Cheyanne. Has anyone else ever experienced this? I have spent alot of time with Chey and I have been doing obedience with her to try and help but it just doesn't seem to be there. My girls like her but even they don't seem to have that connection with her. My fiancee' really doesn't, but he is not really that much of an animal person.
I do not know what to do with her. I really like her but I feel like I may be cheating her out of what she deserves and that is what Kenai and I have.
We have talked to a behaviourist who said that sometimes dogs just don't feel it either and it cannot always be there. She said that sometimes there is nothing you can do but find someone she does bond with. What do you guys think?
I have also tried other suggestions such as feeding her from my hands and grooming, etc...
I had the same situation with a wolf hybrid pup i got and no matter what any of us did, she would never bond. We tried everything, i think the trainer was right and your pup may never bond with you all but might with someone else. We found a good home for the wolf pup and i heard she is doing great. Hope it works out for you.
I'll share what I have experienced. When Farley was about 1 1/2 yrs old we got Chloe. By the time I was able to pick her up she was 12 wks old. As precious as she was & as much as we treated her just as we did Farley when we first got him the difference was that there was another dog in the house and we found that she formed a strong bond with him first. I will admit it took quite a while for her to bond with any of us and to this day I honestly think she prefers Farley altho she is always excited to go somewhere with me without him. She can go outside and Farley will sometimes choose to stay in. But if Farley goes outside 100% of the time she has to go too. She always greets us when we come home, so does Farley. Farley will get on the bed, couch or chair with us or be a literal lap dog & be in our lap. The closest she will come is to put her front half occasionally on your lap but her back feet will always remain on the floor. If no one is on the couch or bed she will happily curl up there but if someone sits on it with her even at the opposite end, off she goes - with Farley if he isn't on it & you get on it you can usually count on him bouncing up there to join you. She is always ready to play with us, etc. but that close connection that we have with Farley isn't there. If I take her somewhere w/o Farley, such as weekly obed. school, she is then my velcro dog & the majority of the time touching me in some manner. If I am petting Farley she is naturally there looking to be pet as well but I think that is the norm in multi-dog households. If she comes over on her own, at home, for some lovins it is usually for a shorter period of time than what Farley expects.
I have chalked the difference up to her bonding with him first. Of course, this is the 1st time I have had an older dog & then brought in a young pup so I may be totally off base but it seems to me to be a logical conclusion. As she has gotten older we have definitely noticed a gradual increase but at 4 years old she is still markedly different than Farley in that regard.
Even tho her "affection meter" is quite different than Farley's we love her to pieces & wouldn't trade her in for anything. I think her differences are part of her appeal plus I don't think I could handle 2 goofballs like Farley is the majority of the time (plus my lap sure isn't big enough!)
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