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I feel weird about how I've acted since Kitty died


Well, once I got that call that Kitty was gone, I cried for about an hour. I woke up my friend and boyfriend and told them and I didn't shed a tear. I went home, hugged mom and I barely cried. Matt and I went to see her (she died in my bedroom in her "recovery room" box) and I cried really hard then I stopped. I could easily go up and talk to her, tell her what a good kitty she is, close her eyes, and take her collar off, no tears. We laughed about alot of the stuff she did.

I didn't cry when dad put her in a box, didn't cry when she was buried. I haven't cried since, at all (except for now). Mom was real depressed. We got Allie the next day, and it seems like Kitty was never here. I guess Allie has taken my mind off of her with her company and crazy antics. I did cry alot when I knew she was sick and when I found out she had cancer. I knew she was sick and I prayed for God to take her and I told her it was okay to go.

I've never lost a pet before her. We were close and she was my baby. I just expected to be depressed and sad for weeks...:/

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everyone reacts differently to loss. maybe it hasnt really hit you yet. maybe it wont hit you at all. although your new cat cannot "replace"the one you lost. she can very well help fill the empty space that miss kitty left. dont feel bad because you are not a basket case. you knew she was very sick and would most likely pass soon. you were prepared for that so it didnt come as a big shock. enjoy your new cat and love her.it does not mean you loved miss kitty any less.

-- Edited by dusty082155 at 22:51, 2005-05-26

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It's ok, Heff. You knew the time was coming and were somewhat prepared, as much as you can be prepared to lose someone. It was the same for me when we put Eli to sleep. I prayed and prayed for him to go in the nite, he only had arthritis, but I prayed for him to die in his sleep, comfortably, so I wouldn't have to do the deed. I cried sooooo hard when we took him there to put him down. I cried for like 20 min afterward, and then it was like I was all cried out. I just stopped crying. Then we left and I layed on the couch, watching tv and not thinking about it, and petted my stuffed rottie, Peaches, like he was Eli sitting in my lap. I didn't cry about it again until that nite. I stayed up 1/2 the nite crying, and I think I did the same thing the next nite. Then it was like I had nothing more to cry about, so I stopped. Haven't cried since. Have gotten misty eyed, but not cried since then. We only had Eli for 9 months. Immediately when we got home from the vets office that day, I wanted another dobie. Just to fill that empty space that a big dog leaves when he is gone. I still want one so badly, but it doesn't look like that's gonna happen. People just grieve in different ways, Heff. Don't feel bad about it. She knew she was loved and that you miss her. It's ok to have another cat already. Allie isn't her replacement, she's just filling the space Miss Kitty left for you.

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You have nothing to feel weird about Heff!  You did alot of your grieving for Miss Kitty while she was still with you and so sick.  In the past I personally have found for myself that when I had a seriously ill furpal and they went peacefully in their sleep it was a blessing for them and easier for me to cope with.  I have found my grief process much more difficult when they passed unexpectedly or they were sick and I had to bring them to the vet to help them to the bridge - as much as I knew it was the right thing to do for them it.  It didn't mean that I loved or missed them less but the process wasn't as traumatic for me I guess.


And I am sure Miss Kitty is at the bridge and very happy to see that another kitty has joined your family and receiving all the love & care that you gave her.  She knows that there is no cat that will ever "replace" her special spot in your heart but she knows your heart is big enough to welcome another into it.



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Everyone reacts to death differently, and everyone has a different grieving period.  i think it also just depends on the cirumstances.  when jerry my gerbil died i cried for days, but yet when my bird moe died (we knew she was old and sick) i cried a lot that night, but that was it.  so i think it just depends!

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I don't show a lot of emotion with things like that. They are right, everyone deals with it differently. When my aunt died, well it is a long story, but I had to be the first to go in the house where she passed away. I think cried the most about it almost a month later. Delayed reaction I guess. You should feel fine that you are moving on. Give Allie lots of love. It will all be ok.

-- Edited by MyPoundPuppies at 17:34, 2005-05-27

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