As you all I know, I take care of my 9 month old godaughter Sarah for about 8 hours a week when her mom goes to school.
When I go to brush my teeth or walk out of the room to get a drink, etc, she will cry(She's in the playpen or chair, she can't walk). I understand she's wanting me right there but I can't be there all the time. I used to stand in my doorway brushing my teeth(my bathrooms right next to my room) so she'd hush. Her mom told me we should both not go to her everytime she cries, is that true? I don't want her to associate crying as a good behavior. If I have something she wants and she can't have it, like keys or something, she'll get mad but I just ignore her and tell her nothing is wrong with her. I don't want her to cry to get her way, either.
Any tips? is it good to ignore them sometimes? her mom also told me when she's getting up from a nap, that I don't have to rush to her, but I can let her cry for a while.
I try to even feed my dogs around her naptime, sad huh? If they're hungry and she cries for attention or just because, I'm sorry, but I have to feed my "children" first.
Her mom is right. You don't always want to come running when she cries. It will teach her that crying is a "good" thing as in getting attention. When she cries don't go running let her cry for a little bit then walk in don't come running. Same when she wakes up.
My best friend ran everytime my god daughter cried. Now that she is 5 she cries when she wants her way and if that doesn't work she will start screaming the whole 9 yards. You have to "break" them of that habbit or crying for attention and not getting their way young.
Yep, her mom is right. Crying is also good for their lungs (keeps them strong) and the tears keeps their tear ducts clean. I read that somewhere.......lol
Crying is also good for their lungs (keeps them strong) and the tears keeps their tear ducts clean. I read that somewhere.......lol
LMAO!! Hers do not need to be any stronger, trust me!
I figured ignorning her would be right. She'll be a year old in January, don't need her being like that as a toddler. When I would brush my teeth and she'd cry I'd pop in and say "I'm here!" and then walk away and she'd cry. I'm not about to pack her 22lb baby butt around when trying to feed two big dogs, no siree. ha
Her dad will be on the comp. with headphones on and she'll cry, and ignore her. He knows she has a dry diaper and just ate and nothings wrong with her. I'll just do what mama says, I don't want her manipulating me, I won't be having it, I HATE brats!
i agree. if you come running every time she cries, you will be creating a monster ! lol. having raised four of my own, i can tell you that you will wear yourself thin if you allow yourself to be at her beck and call. my oldest daughter was very domineering. she would pull herself up on the crib railings and cry, which would turn into screaming. when she realized that it wasnt working, she would settle down and start playing with her toys until she would see me and then it would start all over again. i'm not saying to leave her in there all day, but she needs a little time on her own, same as you. as long as she is within eyesight and earshot, let her be. once she realizes that all her carrying on isnt working, it will become so much easier on the both of you.
She is right. I have been taking care of my niece 2 and nephew 1 and they are really good. My other niece 5 and nephew 4 my mom took care of because I was in school still when they were babies. There mom nor dad is in the picture. Mommy only comes around when she feels like being a mom which anymore is NEVER. Theres a really BIG difference between them and they are all brothers and sisters. The younger ones are really good. Dont scream and they listen. I have trouble with the 1 year old every now and then where he will start that blood curdling scream when he wants something, but he also stops right away because he knows I wont have it. Well the older ones are a WHOLE different story. They are something else. My mom gives them anything they want and they know that. It all started off when they were babies and they would start screaming and she would run right to them. I had an incident tonight with her. She wanted a marker and I told her no it was bed time and she started throwing a BIG fit. Wouldnt you know it my mom went and got her that marker and let her stay up. She knows aunt Jenny means business, so she dont listen to me one bit.
yep everyones right about the crying issue. sometimes babies need to detach themselves from their family faves and can easily work out whos the 'weaker' ones lol. Also babies need to learn to play by themselves and amuse themselves just for short periods though not like a whole day ..can come in very helpfull when trying to do housework :)
Babies have different cries ..a high pitch continuous cry for pain ..a stop and start cry which goes up and down with breaks of momentary silence..to me called the attention grabber lol etc
Well, I tried everything today. it seemed to work. She was in her playpen, standing up, and crying for a bit and shutting up. I walked out of the room to do laundry (right by the room) and she was mad and I told her I wasn't having it and shut the door so I couldn't hear her and I could do laundry in peace (laundry isn't that peaceful, but ya know, ha). She was crying when I went up stairs to feed the dogs and it only lasted maybe a minute and 1/2 and when I came down, she was asleep. My mom totally agrees on letting them cry sometimes. I'm not letting a 9 month old manipulate me, no sir.
