Hasn't his father ever seen him prform before??? If not then he is worried about what pops will think of the new him. I have seen my son perform, he does not mind.
Perhaps Matt wants this part of his life private for now. Like for me to this day I would not want my father even seeing me dance. I just can not act like me when he is around. Maybe its something like that, hopefully not though.
If he has a good relationship with him then he should. I know the different bands that I know of every once in a while the parents come to the shows.
Those are all good points...but the thing is, if he had a good excuse then it'd be different but the fact is, he doesn't have an excuse at all. He just doesn't want them there. They always ask Matt and I to go eat with them, go places with them and we always go...it's not fair.
He will be up there playing, probably drinking a beer....he should not care who's there, especially people he doesn't even know. His dad has heard their tunes on CD and really liked it and he knows Matt has talent. He's not going to screw up terribly so he shouldn't have to be ashamed. He's very talented
I'll talk to him about it, it's just not right to invite me but not his own dad.
there is something that is keeping him from wanting his dad there. he is not telling, and for whatever reason, he is not changing his mind. i wouldnt force the issue or you could be opening a can of worms. could be he has a deep seeded fear of messing up in front of him. which could actually happen if he is playing under the added stress.
I told him earlier "Fine, then I guess you aren't confident enough about your performance"
you may have hit the nail on the head with that remark to him. he may NOT be confident enough in his performance and doesnt want to look bad in front of his father if he does mess up. i would give it time .if their performance goes well, he will probably feel more at ease and invite his dad to the next one.
It's also possible that Matt himself doesn't entirely understand why he doesn't want his dad there, or the issue may be something he doesn't know how to put into words. If you give him some time, he'll probably figure things out.
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Yeah, I guess it's first show jitters....I know he's confident enough, he's really good. I wish I could upload music somewhere, I'd let everyone hear their version of Creedence clearwater revival's "Looking out my backdoor"...it's better than the original!
I talked to him earlier about it and he said he'd ask, he just thought his dad and jess wouldn't want to be around all these crazy (or drunk) people. It can only get crazier as they keep playing.
Christa's worried about all the girls that will be around, thinking they will flirting, grabbing, and stuff. Matt said "If a girl just comes up to talk to me, I will talk to her" and I said "No girl comes up just to talk, they are flirting" ha...I plan to bash girls faces if they mess with him! ha
"Thought is an invisible and subtle power that mocks all the efforts of tyranny." Alexis de Tocqueville
