Well i'm prolly going to ruffle a few feathers but I really need to vent.
Someone I know needs help and when they asked for help never got it, but this person is always there for everyone else. People drive me nuts. This person knows that i'm in a bind and cannot help, and also knows that if I could I would.
How can people always expect people to help them but never help anyone in return! People are so selfish it kills me. I see this everyday all day. Humans are so sick and self centered creatures its pathetic. Why can't just one time someone help someone else? There are few to many people in this world that help others but the others always want help.
This is why I never help anyone that I know will not help me out in return. My brother and sister in law are like this. They want you to give them the world on a silver platter when they are hurting but when the favor needs to be returned they are no where to be found. I have let so many people "borrow" money and have never received it back NO big deal. But when I need a few bucks and they let me "borrow" it they will start nagging me the next day! It kills me! My theory on that is "
Never lend out more than you can afford to lose.
I'm really starting to have the human species. We are sick individuals that only want what is good for us, not others. Everyone needs to help everyone this is why the world is the way it is. Wars Fighting Killing! It COULD all end but we are to selfish!
This is in real life. But honestly I don't see why it would matter either way. This is a conclusion that I have been comming to for sometime. Very few people ever help anyone and the ones that do help end up getting screwed.
I didn't know if it was a forum related problem or not, but I do agree with you. People are very greedy and love taking advantage of others. Our country is based on greed, taking things that belong to others, cut throat antics, savage behavior, etc. it's no wonder we act this way today. It is how we are founded.
However, we do know right from wrong, but unless we want things to change, then it wont. In the cases of ppl like you are referring to, generally they do not want it to change. Sad but true.
Someday their gravy train will run out and they will have to shape up or ship out.
There are lots of people like that out there. It took me most of my life to find more than one friend who were truly good people, the kind that would help without being asked to, and of course I would do the same for them. Now I have a small group of friends like that, and interestingly enough, most of them have been friends with each other for more than 10 years. My best friend and I have been friends for 15 years.
Stormy, you are so right. I learned at an unfortunatly older age to understand the difference between aggressive freeloaders and people that will work with you...
O Lord, I hear ya sister. I love to help people too, but I hate to ask for help myself. I'd rather ask my imediate family. I have a sister that I bend over backwards for, I just do it. But she has never just called with the simple idea of Hmm wonder if sis needs anything.
Oh I had encountered this gal once, she had a young standard poodle. She had no clue as how to care for it. Tp top it off, she did not speak very good english. I would run into her on walks, being I had a poodle, I kept telling her if she wanted any help in learning to take proper care of her poo I would help. Well one day she took the bait. This family was either very untrusting of american vets or really cheap. Their poodles dewclaws(all 4 of them had grown into the pads practically. I told her I could come over and try to clip them.. I armed myself with my whole grooming set and my husbands dremel. Being there was no way to slip a regular nail clipper around the nail, I had to saw thu it. Just enough so's not to cause bleeding. Told them it needed more weekly. I hit a quick on one of the other nails. That dog looked soooo sweet after I talked them into letting me fix him up. My back hurt sitting on that floor, I was there for nearly 4 hours. All of this was to SHOW them how to do things. Lord this girl had the nerve to ask me when I could do it again, she was annoyed because I told her I was busy that weekend. LOL I wanted to help but just showing her the ropes. Lord don't people know there are people who do this for a living. I could not believe she was trying so hard to get me to do it again. For free. Standards are like $50 bucks or more to groom.
People can be so dumb, huh Puttin?? I hate when people do stuff like that. My boss at the salon used to do her sisters and sisters-in-law at cost for haircolor and perms and such. She has us (her employees) charge full price for brothers and sisters-she says some people just have too damn many brothers and sisters (she comes from a catholic family of 6 siblings). She decided one day that she wasn't going to do that for them anymore, since they never do anything like that for her. Her hubby runs a plumbing business next door to the salon and she said they always expected him to give them stuff at cost as well. So they decided that they'd had enough giving and no taking. So she told her siblings she was gonna charge full price for their hair and some of them had the nerve to get mad at her for doing that!! I just thought well, they're getting something for practically nothing, Bernie, my boss, is taking her time, and NOT making any money off them, so she's totally screwing herself. One of her sisters still comes in, but I think that's all. Stupid!!
I guess[not disregarding your selfless act] next time tell them in sign language or whatever, that only one time will you do this for them, that you want them to watch so they can do it. Otherwise, consider asking for money to do it a second time. Should be a way a local pet store will help them. Maybe if you give her a list of Petco's prices, she will either go there, offer you money, or at least understand what you did for free. The nails there are $8. , I believe...
Stormy...I would say even though you started this tread about people letting others down..I would like to comment that if you have ONE TRUE friend in your life time..I would say that you should consider your self very lucky...I think you are pretty young ( I am trying to recall it now...I think you are under 30 ) And at that age I had several "friends" who were long time friends..10 plus years..But...over time they begin to show them selves and one dissapointment after another is a hard lesson learned. I have a friend now..over 25- 27 years...But even though I believe it takes a"friend to have a friend" this person isnt star material. I have even changed how intensly that I befriend some one becase of how things have turned out. I would have to say my best friend at this stage in my life is my husband, and of corse God. But, even at that..I some times dont like my husband. I feel no one will do for me as I would do for them and that hurts when your in the middle of it. I try to live by the "do unto others" phylophy...but I some times am more willing then others to stick my neck out then others are...soo..I just try not to set myself up for disappointment. I have some really great aquantences but very few friends...And I kind of like the way it has fell into place. I hate that dissapointment when you realise that they are not putting in the same amount of effort as you are...So..I dont really know what the point of spewing all of this was except..To point out..If you have just one real friend..charish that one..dont let the others get you down..you might be luckier then most...
Kitty, it was bad enough I needed an interpreter. LOL They have moved back to Chile and took their Chile dog with them LOL So not more worries with that.
