I agree. But then on the other hand, what a hassle. We would probably be B*%&^ing about it if we had to go through that everyday! lol 

I disagree that god is the answer. People will substitute one crutch for another. I think you are right that he probably has anzieties. Drugs that a doctor may give might make it worse.
Diet is the best thing for the mind, which is a reflection of the body. Lots of steamed vegis, garlic makes anything taste good, and less sugars...Therapy may be alright if you get the right person to counsel.

Religion, always a sore spot in a forum like this, but I believe in God. I have gone to church many years (on and off) and did a two year study on church history. Unfortunately, I wish I remembered more about what I learned. I guess my views are different. But I think it is important to have something to believe in. I think I would feel lost and lonely if I didn't believe there was some sort of higher power out there controling this mess we live in. Some think that thinking is crazy and that's ok. I respect that. My own brother thinks that way, I do not judge that.  But maybe that is what your dh needs.

I guess I would focus more on medical attention right now. It is a start. As far as self esteem. I am not a good one to suggest how about to boost that. Just be supportive. Tell him you love him. Just help him to make it to his appointments. I know for me, it is easy to blow them off and make excuses why I don't need to go. I am the best excuse maker when it comes the things about me and my health. I always worry about everyone else first, but I have come to an age now that I have started to pay attention more to my needs.

Sounds like his issues are a strain on your relationship. I can totally understand that too. How Russ has dealt with me for 7 years is beyond me. I told him from the first week I met him I was hard to live with and he has managed to survive! lol

If you ever need to vent, just pm me. It is obvious you care for him and that is what he needs.

I didn't mean "God", I meant "someone" Buddha, Alah, anyone to believe in, just SOMETHING!! He used to be a firm believer in the Lord, but he has since renounced his Christianity and now believes in nothing. He even went on a mission to South America when he was in high school, trying to convert them to the ways of the Lord. I don't know what "switch" was pulled to turn him around but I wish someone would turn it back on!! lol No, we're not very healthy eaters, I'll be the first one to admit that. I don't know for sure what is wrong but I do REALLY hope that it gets better with counseling and therapy. I just don't want him on any more meds, and neither does he. Last time it took such a toll on our "personal life" that I would be crying, literally crying, because he never wanted it anymore. It got so bad that it was like once a month, if I was lucky, and he says he absolutely had NO DESIRE at all for it!! It just made me feel worthless, or like I didn't "spark" him anymore.

Yep, and trying to talk to him about God and faith is like trying to talk to a wall. I'm serious, I never get anywhere when I try and talk to him about it, so I gave up. I just pray for him every night and wish for the best. My mom has also tried to talk to him about it, she's just curious as to what his reasons are as well, but she ends up hitting a brick wall as well. We've both tried saying things to him like "have you ever seen a million dollars?? have you ever seen Africa?? Then how do you know they're there??" and he always comes off like "well, people have been there before and there's pictures and scientific evidence. People have a million dollars, that's all I need to know" and it just ends up frustrating me and him and so I quit talking about it. It was a step for me to take, in marrying someone I knew was openly agnostic. Quite against "the rules" so to speak. But I love him, and loving him means loving ALL of him, and respecting him. I just know that it's going to be tough raising kids with him if he don't believe in God and I do. But I will put my foot down on that one-they are going to be taught the word of God, no matter what he thinks!! I don't go to church either, too many self-righteous do-gooders, IMO. Never was raised to go to church either. My mom orders tapes and has them sent from Houston TX, and she listens to them every nite, that's her "church".

Hope so!!

Good talking to you too!! Thanks, I hope you have good luck at the doctor!!

I agree Puttin....good advice.

Perhaps you were wearing some jewlery that caught the light and made the little orb reflections you see.  I know my ring and watch always do that and I don't even realize it until the dogs are running around cramming their faces into the walls trying to catch them.