Today, I got prepared to go to a family get together at the park nearby. Made i nice dish to bring along. Took me time to do, bringing along other things too. Well we pack up the car and get there and low and behold, my brother tells me my other brother has showed up. I had no idea he was coming. HAd I known I would not have gone to the trouble I had. He had broken into our apartment and stolen half of my jewelry. All of our coins change. He did the same thing to his mom, stole half of $2,000 and all of her change. HAd it been anyone else, we both would have been wiped out completely. I can tell when he is lieing too. To this day I will not have anything to do with him. Oh, about two weeks before it happened, he just showed up wearing some deep pocketed overalls ready to be filled. But I came walking around my back door. I know he was on something, he made me feel like I'd had 10 cups of coffee just talking to him. He asked for phone numbers and what and when our other family members are up to. God I hate this. To me, I honestly could care less if I ever see him again. He was never around before and I never missed then either. He has always been a thief. He went to jail for other times he was caught too. To do this to a family ,member is sooo low. MAybe he holds our childhood against me when I had to open up a can of whoop *ss on him. I think he loved it though because he always pested me for more. But I really wish someone would have remebered to tell me the blacksheep of the family may show up.
I think the thing that made me feel worse today was that I could have avoided it all with a simple phone call. Now I have a potatoe platter that I am going to have to make everyone eat for the next few days. Not that I'm a bad cook, but my family looks for simple stuff to eat notleft overs. But thanks Syd, I appreciate your post.
aww puttin i'm sorry to hear you've had such an awful day. that really sucks that your brother would do that to you and your family. hopefully your day gets better soon!
That stinks! I bet he is involved in drugs and has been for a long time, right? People will steal from their own families to feed a drug habit. It is pretty sad what they will do!
I ahd not even seen him for a few years, but when he showed up pretending to be visiting. he smelt to high heaven like some strange smoke. Not cigerettes. Maybe sherm.LOL I don't know what they call it these days. He used to do that though. I can't beleive he pretended to visit, he would have robbed me that day had I not been there. I called the police and told them who I thought it was too. I could care less if I ever see him again. He is just a pain in my side.
I have an uncle who is that same category! What a reject. He has stolen from my other uncles. Ripped off my grandma. Showed up unannounced at our last x-mas party and told everyone he was dying of cancer...what a lie. Now we find out he just married some old rich drunk women. What a user!!!! By the way, he is not dying, he was just trying to get sympathy and a possible charity handout! The whole family has finally seen his true colors, including his own ex wife and daughter, that was a tough situation, but it was bound to happen. I spent an over an hour on the phone with his teenage daughter with her bawling her eyes out. What a loser!!
This happened a few years ago, and not once hasa he appeared to try to clear his name. I guess every family has a looser in it. His wife and son have it really hard with him. She will no longer even let him use the car. About a year ago, there was a double killing in our town, I recognized the house right away. It was my looser brothers childhood friends home. He still lives there with his parents. Two people somehow shot eat other to death, they believe it was drug related. No doubt. My brother is still buddys with these guys. I used to play with their older brother when I was a kid. But if my brother had it his way, he would be visiting him. I have no doubt about it. Life is sucky sometimes.
M.P.P.- That is just soooo very sad that people don't see the outcome of their ways. Hurting their child like that. And how pitiful is that, saying he was dieing.
Puttin- Rest assured that every family has a loser. Get this, I have an uncle who is the blacksheep. When my grandma was alive he stole from her so many times. Once she went to get in her car, and discovered that the tires were gone...he sold them for drug money. Another time he stole the thankgiving turkey (a 30 pounder) and ham for drug money too. Supposedly he has cleaned up now, but I still can't forgive him. He has never onced apologized to my Dad for all the things he did to him. My family got pi**ed at me for not inviting him to my wedding. I laughed and said if ya'll don't like it... you can stay home with him too. They all showed. HaHa
Sorry Puttin! I have a similar situation with an addict/ now ex addict brother. I love him to death though, and he has been clean now for 1 year . He is awesome when hes not using-but either way I would never be able to talk about my blood like that! My fiance wouldnt come near my house when my brother got kicked out of his apartment, then our moms house then he came to me. Then he stole my car, and when he finally did bring it back it was empty! My philosophy is like Dr. Phils. You should never give up! I truely believe that! I think a lot of the "black sheeps" are very tormented souls either consumed with alcohol or drugs that probably will use every drop you have to offer and take what you dont! BUT! I love my family to death no matter what-so good for you for having balls to be mean-I never would~except for passive aggresive style of mean-which usually they dont get!!!!
With my brother the only thing that would help him is a good kick in the bum(edited by me) LOL Its just ever since he was a kid, he's been this way, and I can not exert any more energy on someone that does not really care about fixing himself for good. Let the county jail do it. We have never been close, because thats the way he seems to like it. I wash my hands of the whole situation. If its put in my face, I doubt that I will fluff up the day and try to cover it up, like he would do when he trys to pretend nothing is wrong.
On the other hand, my other brother that was estranged, I have forgiven and started new with him. He was one of those hard to be around people, that always tried to make you look and feel bad. I told him what I thought not long ago. He completely agreed. He is trying to change. soooo I am not a hard nosed never forgiving type. If I feel there is hope, I skate along and put out feelers.