How can I help my son get over this gal that is breaking up with him.. I know her reasons, because of it being long distance thing. The whole relationship has been online and on the phone. He's never met her in person, but yet he is broken hearted. It breaks my heart seeing him soooo upset.
I agree with Twinkletoes. Having had a teenaged daughter I learned that there is really nothing we can say that will help them when it happens. You can only be there if he needs a shoulder and someone to listen when he needs to talk/cry about it. It is so hard when we see our kids hurting and there really isn't much we can do to ease their distress. It is one of the hardest things of being a parent - unfortunately we can't heal all their wounds.
its hard anytime we see our kids in pain. we are mothers and naturally want to protect them. the best thing that you can do for him is just to be there for him.take him out, just the two of you, for coffee somewhere and sit and talk. be a shoulder for him to cry on. give him flowers or a little gift. that may sound funny to some people , but guys like that stuff too. he is going through the down time right now, but it will pass and he will meet "the one" and will look back on this as a stepping stone that he went over to get to the one that he is meant to be with. we have all been there and survived.
Gals and guys, darn darn darn, she changed her mind, (Like oh my god) I am trying to put little thoughts in my sons head that this IS going to happen again, and to start thinking about just having her as a friend. God I hate this. In my heart I know it will not work. On the other hand I know darn well my son is wooped. The sad thing is he has never even met her in person. He had lied about that for a while, so's not to look foolish. But it all came out that night.
This also shows me that my son has the ability to fall head over heals in love. I had been trying to teach my sons how to respect women for the longest time. Starting when they were very little. Me being a women, I know what we want. Pray that that girl just dissappears!!!!!!!!!!!
puttin, how old is your son? i know when they are around the age of 15-16, girls are the biggest thing to them next to sports. lol . but usually crushes never last for very long. hopefully he will meet someone that is closer and can get to know them on a face to face basis. she might be enjoying the fact that she knows he really likes her and she is running with it. she could even have several others that are takin by her too. i would give it time and chances are he will "see the light" sooner or later and decide for himself that she isnt doing right by him. hopefully he will meet a girl that he can actually do things with. go to a movie, dinner, sports events, thing like that. and she will be put in the past.
He will be 18 in September. I know, I have thrown all sort of scenarios out to him. Right now he thinks she is his angel. God I want to choke He keeps asking me to drive him up there, an hour and a half away. I tell him get my hubby to want to go and I will. I hate driving anywheres unknow to me alone. I mean an hour and ahalf is not alot. But I always think I'm going to get lost. I think it goes back to when I was very little. I did get lost.
okay, i am a dingbat. i ask you how old your son was , when it says right in your post "17 and broken hearted". dduuuhhhhh !! i guess its safe to assume that he is 17 !! lol
i guess at that age they always think they know best. He could be in love with her and things will work out in the end and they live happily ever after etc etc lol, its a possibility but a slim one. the problem is that he has never met her to her face and has had no real time spent with her to find out if she is an "angel" or not. My best friends mum and dad got together at 15 surivived a long distance relationship..finished school, went to college, graduated, got jobs, married had kids and they are still together years later...
it all depends on how suppourtive you are going to be and where you are going to draw the line~whether you are going to drive and hour an a half every time they want to see each other.
It could be a good thing that you drive there..he could meet her and he may not like her atall and thats the end of that. Or he could see her and be totally spell-bound by her and want more trips to see her. And after all this she could change her mind and not want to see him anymore adn he could end up even more broken-hearted than before.
Has he seen a picture of her, does he know much about her atall
He thinks he does, talks for hours just about everyday. He has seen a picture or two of her, BUT, is it really her. I wonder. He thinks he knows her well. I have thought the same things, maybe bring him up there, and maybe she will have some stupid thing that she physically does that just irks him. We shall see.
He keeps asking me to drive him up there, an hour and a half away. I tell him get my hubby to want to go and I will. I hate driving anywheres unknow to me alone. I mean an hour and ahalf is not alot. But I always think I'm going to get lost. I think it goes back to when I was very little. I did get lost.
