Here is my poll

XjessicaXburgiX · MAD DOG!

Here is my poll

Paige · ~Grand Champion~ Gold Medal Poster!

Not really sure what to vote on. You just need to make sure that you and your husband are emotionally and finacially able to take care of a baby. I got pregnant when I was 18 and I don't regret it one bit. But it is something you should really think about. And baby is a very long lifetime commentment.

puttin510 · ~Grand Champion~ Gold Medal Poster!

I agree with Paige, if alls in order in your household, hubby is on the same page as you then go ahead. If you feel you would be a good mom, then you probably will be. Not all women are cut out to do it though. Just because you can does not mean you should. Think it thru.

I did not vote, because I don't know you well enough to just blunty say yes or no.

-- Edited by puttin510 at 19:40, 2005-08-22

XjessicaXburgiX · MAD DOG!

hahahaha.....i will not base this poll as to what i will actually do. I mostly would love opinions! I am super bored...lol

puttin510 · ~Grand Champion~ Gold Medal Poster!

Well thats good news. It is nice also to have your siblings children about the same age, so they can play together.

ZoeandTucker · Post-a-Holic - Give this person a rabies shot!

I think you're a little to undecided. A baby is a HUGE committment as I'm sure you know. It can't me a maybe, maybe not kind of thing.

dusty082155 · ~Best In Show~ Senior Board Member!

i agree with the others. a baby is a lifetime commitment. if you are not absolutely sure, then i would wait awhile. i know sometimes we dont always plan them. lol . i had four of my own and two that i raised from the time they were in kindergarten and 1st grade. so i had my hands full. i am easy going and laid back, so i enjoyed my kids. my youngest sister is high strung and thought i was totally insane. she is 40 and childless and doesnt want children. so i guess its to each his own.

oasis05 · Moderator

I wanted at least one and even with my health risk, i took my chances. I was 21 when i had my son and wasn't totally sure that i was ready but i don't regret it one bit. My brother is 36 and never had kids and doesn't want one so no problem there but i think if you really want one and so does your hubby, then go for it. People always say wait until you can afford it but really.....you never can.......lol J/K

MollieMae01 · Moderator

I would say that you're not absolutely sure about it, so don't do it till you are. Although some people have the "if it happens, it happens" attitude, which is fine. I'm the same age as you, Jess (I'll be 22 in Oct) and have been married for 2 years and I still don't want to have kids. I'm really selfish with myself and my hubby so I'm just not ready at all for a kid. Maybe I never will be. My aunt is 44 and hasn't any kids and doesn't regret it one bit. She just has her live-in boyfriend (probably commonlaw hubby by now) and 3 dogs and she's totally happy with it. I would wait if I were you. Just to give you guys some time together. After having a baby, there goes all the "alone time", sex life, night life, you name it. That's my opinion anyway.

PrettyDobie · ~Best In Show~ Senior Board Member!

Thats a big decision I don't know how to anwser.

dusty082155 · ~Best In Show~ Senior Board Member!

then why did you post?

twinkletoes · You have been awarded the Posting Star of Honor!

wow i would love to have a child but im under no illusions on the life changes which we will both face. I knows its not like the movies lol..i had a career in childcare working with children for along time so i got ALOT of insight into the problems parents have and the babies, home and relationship changes etc..the parents would always come in and off-load all their thoughts and anxietys onto us..it was great though

Me and Michael just would like the one child but you never know how you are gonna feel in the future but i think 2 would be my max Thank fully michael adores children and cant wait for us to start a family so we can talk about it openly.

Before we have a child though i want to get our life together as sorted as possible..have a house which we love and is suitable, make sure we have finances available to cover emergencys etc. I know you never know whats gonna happen in the future..you may lose your job etc or you may not but i always want to be as prepared as possible for the major things that could go wrong

PrettyDobie · ~Best In Show~ Senior Board Member!

Dusty I posted to give her my input.

Kittys Mom · ~Best In Show~ Senior Board Member!

You go right ahead and input, PD.
Sometimes I post just so people know I read what they wrote and thought about it. It is sad when you write something and nobody responds.

Usually, I say nothing only when I feel like saying something negative or inappropriate.

PrettyDobie · ~Best In Show~ Senior Board Member!

I totally agree I put that also because I have not voted because I feel that you shouldn't leave it up to other people to make a decision like this. I do understand that she put this post up to get peoples input of what we think about the idea. I just really don't know jessica that well so I can't really anwser yes or no.

Erica · MAD DOG!

ummmm i am not going to vote either. I know it is a poll that is suppose to be just for fun but really i don't know anything about you, your situation in life. It should be up to you and you husband/ significant other. Good luck on what ever you decide though!

nikkispnce · 12:29 PM, 08/23/05

PD I think? Dusty was asking Jessica why she posted it. Because she said she was just asking and not for her or something. I don't think that was for you.

Jessica, I don't think anyone is ever as finacially ready as they want to be. So ask yourself a few questions. Could you afford living off one income? Are you a partier and enjoy your time out at clubs, movies, dinner, etc? Do you need to be ready and out of the house in less than 3 hrs LOL? cause man it takes forever to be ready to go somewhere with kids.

Anyways I think the biggest shock for most people is they really can't go anywhere after they have kids until they are like 10-12 yrs old then they can go and have fun with you or stay home. Sitters are hard to find and getting expensive and not always reliable.

So basically the question is are you and your DH ready in your life to have it revolve around a child and not yourselves. If so then go for it!

StormyWinter · Moderator

My son was unplanned, I do not regret it at all. Having a baby is a very hard decision and when it comes unplanned a even bigger shock. My hubby was the only one working at the time we did not have much money but we did it. Money isn't always a big issue when it comes to kids. Yes they are alot of money but if you plan things right you will be just fine. If you like to party drink etc.. That will end at least for 10 years. When you have a baby youe lives almost come to a stop.

A couple we are friends with just had a little baby boy who just turned a month old. They were both big on going out and drinking etc. Now that the baby is here she wants to go out and drink and party. He wants to stay home with the baby. He was ready for the life changing event and she wasn't. This is causing a lot of problems in their relationship. My point is saying this is, if you want a baby and hubby doesn't it can cause alot of problems. I am seeing this first hand with these to. She Bi$%hes to me all the time that he doesn't want to go out, my answer is "well you have a baby you don't need to go out" needless to say she doesn't like my answer. They are both talking about leaving eachother and she says that she's taking the baby. I personally think that she wasn't ready to be a mother but he was ready to be a daddy.

decision is not only yours but your hubbys. Make sure it is something that you both agree one.

XjessicaXburgiX · MAD DOG!

Okay...so now i feel bad...this post wasn't meant to be taken as seriously as it was. I was really bored!!! No worries, I would never actually try for a baby without my hubbys complete agreement. Anyway...thank you for all the good advice. I can assure you that i won't have one just because it sounds fun for a moment to have a baby. Sorry if i came off as a baby hungry dumb@$$

p.s. My nephew was finally born last night at 7:43.....Scott Daniel 6 lbs 9.9 ounces, and 20 inches long!!!! I wish i could be there to see him!

-- Edited by XjessicaXburgiX at 17:55, 2005-08-23

StormyWinter · Moderator

Jessica, I hope you didn't take my post wrong. I wasn't "preaching" I was just giving my adviseand experiances. I didn't think you were comming off as a "baby hungery dumbass". I thought it was just a question asking people advise.