Just passing along the news that JT's only brother died a few hours ago. I won't go into the details of his death just yet - just that he went into cardiac arrest.
As some of you know, JT lost his father when he was just 16, lost his cousin Cliff (who lived with us and was like a brother to JT) at 23, and now loses his only sibling at 25. The last 10 years have been very hard on him.
Please keep JT in your thoughts and prayers as this is an extremely difficult time for him. I will post more details as they become available, but won't be able to be on much at all.
I am so sorry. Any loss hurts but when someone is so young and hasn.'t been able to live a full life sometime makes it all the hard. You are all in my thoughts
As if the two of you hadn't had a tough enough year... I'm sorry about JT's brother. It must be terribly difficult to lose a sibling, especially at such a young age. My thoughts will be with your family.
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Thank you all SO much for the kind words. It's been a rough week. He died Monday, just after noon. We went to JT's moms house to let it all sink in (Taylor lived there with his mom). Tuesday was another long day, friends and family were still finding out the news. The phone was ringing off the hoof - all 3 of them and people were coming over....you know how it is. JT had been doing "ok" up until Wednesday. Taylor had wanted to be cremated if anything ever happened so that was the decision. His body was transported from the morgue to the crematory and JT went in to see him one last time.
It was then that it finally "hit" him.....seeing his little brother laying there in a body bag. Just so, so sad. He was scheduled to be cremated about 7PM last night and his ashes will be picked up either this evening or tomorrow. A memorial will be held next week for the friends and family, but we've just been trying to get through the shock of it all right now.
Taylor had a MySpace page. We had visited it once, about a month ago. He went into some serious issues in his blogs. One of his good friends went in and posted on Taylors blog after he died. Today I went in to read it and was saddened even more to see that JT has responded to the blod.....leaving some final words for his brother. It just made me cry. He evidently done it at some point when I wasn't around and never said anything to me about it.
JT stayed with his mom last night. I haven't seen him in about 30 hours and I miss him like crazy, but I know he needs to be with her right now. I didn't go to his mom's today because I had some things I had to take care of here.
Taylor had a long, hard battle in life. He never got past losing his father at 14. On top of that he was ridiculed by people who were anti-gay (Taylor was gay). You can see his pain if you read his blogs. If anyone should want to read....
http://www.myspace.com/nashtater
Thanks again to everyone. Proto, you are right....we've had our share of bad luck this year.....and we're ready for it to change.
I really don't know what to say. I've been reading this post since it was posted thinking of something to say. There are no words to express how upset you all must be. I know my words will not heal the pain, but I truly am sorry. I looked at his MySpace and it put a face to a story so to say. Thats when it really hit me. I was in tears reading JT's blog to him. I read most of what was written, from what I gather he was a interesting young man with a lot of problems in life. May he rest in peace, and be happy sitting with his father once again, looking over JT and their mother.
I too don't know what to say. All I can say is I'm sorry, I'll say a little prayer and keep ya'll in your thoughts. *Great big bear hug from me to your family*
Everyone, gay or not, needs to be strong. Strength and HOPE, are two things that none of us can do without. I had a friend die that was without hope. She looked to me, among others, for advice/insight HOPE must be provided, unconditionally, to ALL. But this hindsight of mine is 20/20. If anyone you know needs advice/insight that is negative in your scope, it is important that you redirect them in a positive manner. I do not care how far from reality you need to go, just redirect, if you are incapable, or become capable, and express HOPE.... We are stronger than our siblings and neighbors, and it is good for us to care for them. It is also BLAMELESS, for us to have not prevented problems not of our own doing. DO WHAT YOU CAN. I love you. Cheri.
I've been reading this Ansy and I have no idea what to say to you. I'm sorry and I'll pray for the family just doesn't seem good enough. My brother is 23 years old and I just keep thinking what if it were him? I don't know what I would do. It's so sad. Life gets taken away every day. As worthless as it may seem I am sorry for the family's loss and I will keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers everyday.
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Saving just one dog won't save the world, but it surely will change the world for that one dog. -Richard C. Call
"Thought is an invisible and subtle power that mocks all the efforts of tyranny." Alexis de Tocqueville
